Men get a bad rap. When people think of a cheating spouse, they usually imagine a husband, caught red-handed with his mistress. But a man doesn’t cheat alone. When a man cheats on a relationship, there is usually a woman involved.
With more than half of all marriages ending in divorce, it should come as no surprise that someone is cheating, somewhere. According to recent statistics, between 30-60 percent of married individuals in the United States will cheat on their spouse at some point in the marriage. It is any wonder, then, that so many marriages end on a sour note?
When a marriage or relationship encounters difficult times, the risk of one partner cheating increases. A person is more likely to seek solace in the arms of another if they are feeling misunderstood, unheard, unloved, or unappreciated. As the relationship deteriorates, the desire to move on and create new bonds grows stronger.
While historically, men have been taking the rap for cheating, women are becoming more and more likely to have infidelity issues. As more women enter the work force and spend time with other adults, they can also develop those intimate relationships outside of their marriages. It is not only husbands who are caught in office romances. Women are becoming just as likely to develop extra-marital relationships as men.
Most people do not enter into a relationship with the intention to cheat on their partner. Often, infidelity is the result of a situation that arises, rather than a planned course of action. There is a lot to be said for staying out of situations that could cause you trouble. The closer to the edge you walk, the more likely it is that you could tumble over into uncharted territory.
Some studies suggest that the more attractive a person is, not only physically, but also emotionally, socially and financially attractive, the more likely they are to cheat. As people become more financially secure, their attention shifts from survival to enjoyment. They want to expand their horizons and enjoy all that life has to offer.
It’s a grey area as vast as the ocean. There are as many ways to cheat on a partner as there are people who cheat.
When does texting a friend become cheating? Or does it ever? Does cheating include having lunch together or flirting in public? Is cheating limited to sex? Is cheating limited to certain acts, but not others?
What one person may deem appropriate behavior may be completely off base for someone else. There are numerous opportunities to text, to message and to chat with people outside of a relationship. When does that texting become cheating, or does it ever?
Former President Bill Clinton famously said, “I did not have sex with that woman, Monica Lewinsky.” Although it was discovered that Bill and Monica did participate in oral sex, perhaps he did not feel like that was actually cheating on his wife. For some people, kissing, fondling and oral sex are all okay, even when you are married. They consider it cheating only when they have actual intercourse with the other person.
The person who uses such broad definitions is usually the cheater. The one cheated on usually has a much narrower definition of cheating behavior.
Here are ten signs that a person might be cheating in their relationship. Of course, there could be a plausible explanation for any or even all of the following ten signs.
Trust your gut. You know the truth, if you listen to your instincts. Once you determine if your partner is cheating on you, then you have a couple of different options. Decide if it matters to you. If it doesn’t matter, then you can drop it and move on.
If it does matter to you, then you can ask your partner. Don’t expect an honest answer. Cheaters are deceivers. They will tell you what they think you want to hear. If you have evidence or proof, then you can present that. And then you must decide.
Is the cheating a deal breaker? Only you and your partner can decide if your relationship is worth saving in spite of extramarital behavior.
10: She texts at weird times and in strange places.
If your partner suddenly begins texting at all hours of the day and night, then it could be a sign of cheating. Staying up late at night? Getting up extra early and getting right on the phone? What about texting in the bathroom, and coming out laughing?
These could be signs that your partner is cheating. Does he get up and leave the room to text? Does he hide his phone and act secretive when he texts?
Texting has become an easy way for people to cheat on their partners. It is easy to enter into lengthy and intimate conversations with someone other than your spouse, while texting.
Texting, messaging and chatting allow people to say things to each other they would never say in person. It allows space for false intimacy to develop quickly and easily.
Once an intimate texting relationship develops, it is a slippery slope to becoming physically intimate.